What Speaking My Truth Means To Me – Ginny Martin Fleming

Growing up female in the 1960’s and ‘70’s in the South, I was taught to smile and answer “fine” to any inquiry as to how I was, even if I was upset or hurting, scared or lonely, or just not “fine.”  I grew up watching women in the South, and on TV, cater to their men, greeting them at the end of the day in fresh clothes with a hot meal of a meat and two vegetables and dessert and the expectation of quiet, well-behaved children.  Good grades were shown to Daddy.  Not-so-good grades were saved “for the right time.”  Even in my own (first) marriage, I knew to put away new clothes in closets until “the right time.”

            I was an exceptionally good Southern girl.  I hid my flaws well, shyly acknowledging my successes, but often downplaying them, since I knew they were only part of the picture of who I was.  I did not dare risk the truth getting out of who I really was.  Oh no!  I thought anything less than perfection might disgrace the family or, even worse, render me unlovable to my parents.  I internalized this sense of “not good enough.”  I mastered the art of hiding my true feelings.

            Childhood imprints can be hard to overcome.  Decades later, I am still trying to “get it” that I am good enough.  Intellectually I can accept this; but internalizing it so that I make appropriate choices and responses, set suitable boundaries for healthy relationships, and live a life of integrity where my truth is readily apparent is still sometimes a challenge for me.  I have gradually peeled away the layers, one by one, daring to reveal the real me to a select few at first.  Over time strong supportive friendships and a loving second husband have reassured me it is safe to be me.  I can now speak my truth.  I really am “fine” just as I am.

Prior to having children, Ginny was an Account Executive for a high tech advertising agency.  Before getting sick in 1990, she had her own free lance marketing and public relations business.  Today, Ginny’s passion is empowering other women through private healing sessions, rich friendships, and teaching kundalini yoga and meditation.  She is also a writer and lover of books.  When not escaping to their little beach house, Ginny lives in Wake Forest, NC with her husband, Michael, and her sweet 15-year old golden/border collie, Bailey.  Contact Ginny at gmfleming1124@gmail.com.

“We can see a little piece of ourselves in every story as we share the heartache but also the joy of remembering who we really are.  Bravo to all these brave and beautiful women!”

Sherrie Scott, Singer/Songwriter, Filmmaker

1 Response to “What Speaking My Truth Means To Me – Ginny Martin Fleming”

  1. 1 Melissa Kline July 3, 2010 at 10:45 pm

    You are a beautiful and amazing being! I am so glad to be a part of this project with you. Thank you so much for sharing your story with the world. Keep following your heart. 🙂


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