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What Speaking Your Truth Means To Me – Kelly Collins

     I have arrived at a moment of pause in my life.  Perhaps it is just aging; perhaps it is an awakening of my soul.  Either way, it started as a discomfort.  I could feel an itch, but, could not discern the location to scratch it.  The discomfort grew.  It agitated in the middle of the night it called to me in my journal.  Eventually, ‘it’ had to be addressed.

     The discomfort came from my soul.  It let me know that I was living a life that contained inauthentic actions and words.  As little as ‘white lies’ about why I was late to full blown excuses about why I couldn’t meet my plans and obligations.  I knew it was my ‘Truth’ and authenticity I was dealing with, because The Universe sent me some wonderful loving souls to remind me that I wasn’t being wholly authentic.   When I heard the words “Be Yourself Everywhere,” the tears flooded my eyes.  As I was told to ask myself, “‘Who is the liar, the cheater, the alcoholic that wants to hold you back from your Greatness,” I knew that Spirit was no longer going to allow me to carry on with the masquerade ball I had created.    I am alive today because I sought out my truth and although the exposure of my authenticity is uncomfortable, it is not as painful as the itch!

Kelly Collins has been a Licensed Mortgage Broker for the past 27 years.  She holds a Bachelors degree in Psychology with a minor in Women’s Studies and an emphasis on Religious Studies from the University of Denver. Kelly is a certified Zumba® fitness instructor and is also in pursuit of becoming a practitioner with Mile Hi Church of Religious Science.  She lives with her family in Lakewood, CO and can be reached via e-mail at


“Speaking Your Truth will uplift you to envision the next best stage of your precious life!  Each woman’s story is an authentic inspiration for real change and meaning!”

Bernadette Hunter, LPC, P.C., owner, Powerful Performance

What Speaking My Truth Means To Me – Ginny Martin Fleming

Growing up female in the 1960’s and ‘70’s in the South, I was taught to smile and answer “fine” to any inquiry as to how I was, even if I was upset or hurting, scared or lonely, or just not “fine.”  I grew up watching women in the South, and on TV, cater to their men, greeting them at the end of the day in fresh clothes with a hot meal of a meat and two vegetables and dessert and the expectation of quiet, well-behaved children.  Good grades were shown to Daddy.  Not-so-good grades were saved “for the right time.”  Even in my own (first) marriage, I knew to put away new clothes in closets until “the right time.”

            I was an exceptionally good Southern girl.  I hid my flaws well, shyly acknowledging my successes, but often downplaying them, since I knew they were only part of the picture of who I was.  I did not dare risk the truth getting out of who I really was.  Oh no!  I thought anything less than perfection might disgrace the family or, even worse, render me unlovable to my parents.  I internalized this sense of “not good enough.”  I mastered the art of hiding my true feelings.

            Childhood imprints can be hard to overcome.  Decades later, I am still trying to “get it” that I am good enough.  Intellectually I can accept this; but internalizing it so that I make appropriate choices and responses, set suitable boundaries for healthy relationships, and live a life of integrity where my truth is readily apparent is still sometimes a challenge for me.  I have gradually peeled away the layers, one by one, daring to reveal the real me to a select few at first.  Over time strong supportive friendships and a loving second husband have reassured me it is safe to be me.  I can now speak my truth.  I really am “fine” just as I am.

Prior to having children, Ginny was an Account Executive for a high tech advertising agency.  Before getting sick in 1990, she had her own free lance marketing and public relations business.  Today, Ginny’s passion is empowering other women through private healing sessions, rich friendships, and teaching kundalini yoga and meditation.  She is also a writer and lover of books.  When not escaping to their little beach house, Ginny lives in Wake Forest, NC with her husband, Michael, and her sweet 15-year old golden/border collie, Bailey.  Contact Ginny at

“We can see a little piece of ourselves in every story as we share the heartache but also the joy of remembering who we really are.  Bravo to all these brave and beautiful women!”

Sherrie Scott, Singer/Songwriter, Filmmaker

What Speaking My Truth Means To Me – Ana-Christina Wadle


I was NOT very happy when Lisa (very politely) told me that I’d written a good story, but that she was rather hoping that I would tell a different one for her book.

One that she’d heard a snippet of during a workshop that I presented at one of her Women, Wine, and Wellness events.

I really did NOT want to write it.  I was done with it.  It was history.  I am tired of having it sap me of energy when I think of it (i.e. – there’s still a root of something unhealthy there, huh?)

I tucked it away for about a week, ruminated on it, and finally sat down to write. 

I immediately became sick to my stomach and left the project for another time.  I false-started two more times.  I realized that God was giving me another opportunity to heal a hidden root of pain that I’d been overlooking.  Once I understood and accepted it, I began again. 

I wept a little, still felt terribly nauseated, and got it done.  I slept on it, re-read it and then went to my parent’s home, where my husband was working, and read it to the three of them.  It was impactful and powerful to surface emotions that I thought were long healed. 

Ah, but there’s a huge difference

between healed and buried, is there not?

Writing this chapter created a space for me.  A space to take time to open up an area in my heart.  And re-opening and old, poorly healed wound can be very painful.  And then be willing to clean it out?!  And, of course, it takes additional steps to close and give it time to heal – this time cleanly.

God is so gracious, and keeps giving me these amazing opportunities to forgive, and forgive again.  Not only others.  It was amazing to finally forgive myself.  It was last year.  I was 42.   

In this healing, I have found my gifts, my passions, and my path. 

I am doing what I was meant to do. 

Speaking my truth means that I am willing to look at the whole story, and see how even the bad parts helped me become who I am today. 

Speaking my truth means that I will share, even though I’m nervous about it.

Speaking my truth means saying what I need to say, knowing that it will inspire and encourage others, and create another level of healing for me.

Build the life you REALLY want.

Ana-Christina Wadle (“Wad-lee”) is an inspirational trainer and speaker, Legacy Coach, and author. She presents her Tools of Hope Workshops not only as a trainer and coach, but as a keynote speaker for a wide variety of companies and organizations. She was a single mom for ten years to her three boys, Colin, Nick, and Chris. She met and married her gift (and partner in constant-home-remodel!), Jerry Wadle in 2007. Her twin passions are helping survivors of any kind to learn to thrive, and helping the helpers. With her motivating and insightful trainings, she has worked with distinct groups such as victim’s advocates, clinical staff, counselors, accountants, construction superintendents, police officers, SWAT officers, nurses, and sales professionals. Learn more at:  www.TOOLSOFHOPE.COM or, Email:, Call:  303.751.6813


“The women in this book bravely offer stories of lives lived with passion, mindfulness, and perseverance. Their strength is humbling, and uplifting. Their stories are stimulating and inspiring, and they prove that we alone define ourselves and our place in this world.”

Rachel Thompson, DVM Associate Veterinarian Minnesota Zoological Garden

What Speaking My Truth Means To Me – Linda Anderson

Being part of the “Speaking Your Truth” project has been an amazing opportunity for me. I have always wanted to be a writer and to now have the chance to not only be published but to tell my own story! There is certainly a freedom in expressing my life lessons and to be able to share them with others so that they will not feel alone and be able to overcome their own obstacles. Even if the people reading my story do not have the same issues in their life, it will help them understand what goes on for others and help them to be grateful for what they do have.

I plan to write more in the future and with being a part of this book I have more confidence in my writing and my ability to fulfill my dream of being a published author.  This is a kick-start to that dream that I never imagined would come to me in this form. The more I realize that just by letting things happen naturally, the most amazing gifts can land right on your doorstep and this project is that manifested for me. 

I am extremely grateful to both Lisa Shultz and Andrea Costantine in creating this venue for me and everyone else who have participated in this book.

Linda Anderson lives by the foothills of the beautiful Rocky Mountains in Lakewood, Colorado with her loving boyfriend, his daughter and her two sons. She has a personal assisting business, which is growing steadily, and she is enjoying running her own business. She loves to travel and is always looking for more ways to grow together and individually. She reads and plays the violin in her spare time. She looks forward to the rest of her life with hope and optimism. She desires to help society understand what domestic violence is and put an end to it.  She can be reached at


“Read one of these stories and you’ll keep turning the pages for more. Speaking Your Truth taps into a range of life experiences as women share their deepest hurts, triumphs and growth that once seemed unlikely or impossible.”

Susan K. Elliott, entrepreneur and author of Start Your Own Home-Based Summer Camp,

What Speaking My Truth Means To Me – Marie Gallagher

When I first heard about this project, I thought I didn’t have a story to tell.  If I did have a story perhaps it would not be something someone would want to read so I initially did not want to share.  I started thinking about my story and speaking my truth and realized, that hey, this story might resonate with someone else.  If someone else could read the words I’d written and see themselves in the story and see that there was a very large light at the end of the tunnel, then perhaps I could help someone else realize that the path to love is open, if you are open. 

Speaking my truth in my story has been a soul opening experience for me.  I was scared, but I am no longer afraid.  I felt lonely at times in the past, but now realize I will never be lonely because I am surrounded by loving people, pets and circumstances.  I know I wanted to completely forget about the past, yet it is because of the past that I am who I am today.   The past is over, I could never rewrite it or relive it any other way and that is just fine by me.  I don’t live in the past, and I don’t sweat the future – I live in the present and my oh my, what a delightful gift it is.   I am happy and grateful to have been a part of this writing project because I did have a story to tell and I know the writing of it will help others.

Marie Gallagher is happy to report that she has been blissfully wed for 23 years now.  She counts her spouse and daughter as the centerpieces of her life.  She loves her work as a certified massage therapist specializing in pain relief for chronic stress, pain, injuries and  trauma.  She found that being present in life and showing up for what is – has made  the profound difference.   You can reach Marie at (303) 748-9130 to schedule bodywork.  You can also reach her at: -or- at the website:


“This inspirational book reveals the sisterhood that women share on journeys to healing, choice, change, and self realization. The stories will touch your soul.”

Shelly Moorman, Parent Educator, Coach, and Speaker, Head & Heart Parent

What Speaking My Truth Means To Me – Linda Van Haver

I have found that speaking my truth has become absolutely essential to living my life with authenticity.  Until recently, I kept my truth locked away in a vault marked Shame.  The more I stepped into my own personal empowerment, the more willing I became to share my truth, especially when I realized how helpful it could be to others.  Yet at first to open up and speak my truth was difficult for me.  I have always been a private person and don’t share information about myself easily. In addition, since I am a therapist I am accustomed to keeping quiet about myself to create a safe space for my client and making sure I have no personal agenda during a session.

I also found that I had to release worrying about hurting others’ feelings in order to speak and stand in my truth. I had to let go of wondering what the reaction would be from those who hurt me and my calling them out on it. My desire to coddle and protect those closest to me had to be overcome because they are part of my life, hence my story.  I now feel so secure in this world and my place in it that I no longer  am I  tied to everyone having a good opinion of me.  I have done a shift which has enabled me to drop my guard, surrender, just be and let my truth speak for itself.

Helping people release the effects of a turbulent childhood and step into their greatness is what Linda Van Haver feels called to do.  Through behavior modification and empowerment techniques, she works with people by phone, in workshops, and in private sessions to assist them in creating an excellent quality of life. She is a Hypnotherapist, Energy Psychology Practitioner, Co-Author of One Page Wisdom, and Creator of Reclaim the Power Within™ and Claim Your Thunder™ workshops.  772 770-MIND (6463)  Email:

Speaking Your Truth is an authentic celebration of courage and love. Each person’s journey will inspire you to connect with your heart, discover your voice and speak your own truth.”

Marie Kirkland, Spiritual Life Coach and Founder of Inner Alignment Living

What Speaking My Truth Means To Me – Paula Robbins

I have recently had the privilege of contributing to a compilation book called Speaking Your Truth. It is a book written by all women authors with intention to inspire, motivate and share in the wonderful world of strong and empowered women that have overcome obstacles from a place of love, commitment, and just pure fire. The bond that women share with one another is very special. For centuries, women have held each other up amongst great challenge and adversity and celebrated all that life can offer with one another, and many of these contributions have had a great impact on our society as we know it today in America. Yet, women do not always readily share of their adversity. Many of the strongest women in history have walked through great challenges with grace, dignity and discretion, only for the truth to come out much later in their life of what it was like to walk in their shoes (or pumps if you prefer).

Sharing stories has always had a powerful impact in people’s lives. We all want to know how others have gotten through difficulties and risen to a place of light, and this book offers just that, experience, strength and hope.

It truly is an honor to be able to share my own story and read many others knowing I am not alone in the efforts I have made to make a better life for my self, my loved ones and my community. It is amazing what the human spirit can walk through and even more amazing how each individual chooses to step. With every story in this book, you will be able to take something that will inspire and motivate you, regardless of your gender, and it will empower you to speak your own truth and walk your own walk with a greater ease and confidence in doing so.

Paula Robbins, CCHt a Certified Counseling Hypnotherapist who specializes in the healing works of transpersonal hypnosis and spiritual transformation. Her desire to help people change their lives for the better is a natural way of being. She is committed to supporting the efforts of all who wish to live a life of Higher Purpose through healing within, spiritual expansion and maintaining states of peace through any circumstance.  For more information visit or contact Paula directly at (303)921-1473 or by email at


“The women in Speaking Your Truth are all fearless and risk takers with their truth. All women, especially young women who are still searching for who they are, need to read these stories to share in the inspiration and wisdom of women who are achieving their dreams despite life’s roadblocks. I thought of my young daughter as I was reading this book and thought that this book could be so healing when she encounters negativity. Thank you so much, writers, for sharing your words with us!”

Alice Osborn ( writer, editor, speaker and teacher

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"There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside of you." Maya Angelou